Risk Reduction and Tips

 

Title IX Acquaintance Rape


WBU Title IX Administrator:

Dr. Justin Lawrence
Title IX Administrator
Wayland Baptist University
1900 W. 7th
Plainview, TX 79072
(806) 291-1173    lawrencej@wbu.edu

It is important to remember that sexual misconduct is never the fault of the victim.

Risk Reduction Tips

These suggestions may help you reduce the risk of experiencing a non-consensual sexual act.

  • If you have limits, make them known as early as possible.
  • Trust your feelings. If you feel pressured, you probably are.
  • Pay attention to behavior that doesn’t seem right. Power stares, someone who grabs or pushes, someone who doesn’t listen or disregards what you are saying, someone who blocks your way, or someone sitting or standing uncomfortably close are all clues that you should stay alert.
  • Tell a sexual aggressor “NO” clearly and firmly.
  • Be assertive. Get angry and act immediately with a negative response if things seem out of hand. Stand up for yourself. It’s OK to make a scene or be rude if someone is pressuring you.
  • Try to remove yourself from the physical presence of a sexual aggressor.
  • Control your environment. Decide whether you want to be in a particular place or not, and don’t depend on casual acquaintances for money, shelter, transportation, etc.
  • Find someone nearby and ask for help.
  • Stay clear of alcohol intake/drug use because alcohol/drugs lower your sexual inhibitions and may make you vulnerable to someone who views a drunk or high person as a sexual opportunity.
  • If you choose to drink alcohol, drink responsibly. Seventy-five percent of date and acquaintance rapes occur when one or both persons are under the influence of alcohol.
  • Take care of your friends and ask that they take care of you. A real friend willchallenge you if you are about to make a mistake. Respect them when they do.

If you find yourself in the position of being the initiator of sexual behavior, you owe sexual respect to your potential partner. These suggestions may help you to reduce your risk for being accused of sexual misconduct:

  • Clearly communicate your intentions to your sexual partner and give them achance to clearly relate their intentions to you.
  • Understand and respect personal boundaries.
  • DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
    • about consent
    • about someone’s sexual availability
    • about whether they are attracted to you
    • about how far you can go
    • about whether they are physically and/or mentally able to consent.

If there are any questions or ambiguity then you DO NOT have consent.

  • Mixed messages from your partner are a clear indication that you should stop, defuse any sexual tension and communicate better. You may be misreading them. They may not have figured out how far they want to go with you yet. You must respect the timeline for sexual behaviors with which they are comfortable.\ Don’t take advantage of someone’s drunkenness or drugged state, even if they did it to themselves.
  • Realize that your potential partner could be intimidated by you, or fearful. You may have a power advantage simply because of your gender or size. Don’t abuse that power.
  • Understand that consent to some form of sexual behavior does not automatically imply consent to any other forms of sexual behavior.
  • Silence and passivity cannot be interpreted as an indication of consent. Read your potential partner carefully, paying attention to verbal and non-verbal communication and body language.