Acquaintance Rape

 

Title IX Acquaintance Rape


WBU Title IX Coordinator:

Dr. Justin Lawrence
Title IX Co-Coordinator
Wayland Baptist University
1900 W. 7th
Plainview, TX 79072
(806) 291-1173 lawrencej@wbu.edu

 

It is important to remember that sexual misconduct is never the fault of the victim.

A RAPIST IS NOT ALWAYS A STRANGER attacking late at night in an isolated place. A rapist may sit next to you in class, compete on your intramural team or belong to the same organization. Rape doesn’t just conjure up thoughts of a crazed stranger in a dark alley anymore. Date rape is rape.

Date Rape Prevention Checklist

  • Set sexual limits. You don’t “owe” anyone sex. Communicate those limits. People can’t read your mind.
  • Trust your feelings. If you feel pressured, you probably are.
  • Pay attention to behavior that doesn’t seem right. Power stares, someone who grabs or pushes, someone who doesn’t listen or disregards what you are saying, someone who blocks your way, or someone sitting or standing uncomfortably close are all clues that you should stay alert.
  • Be assertive. Get angry and act immediately with a negative response if things seem out of hand. Stand up for yourself. It’s OK to make a scene or be rude if someone is pressuring you.
  • Control your environment. Decide whether you want to be in a particular place or not, and don’t depend on casual acquaintances for money, shelter, transportation, etc.
  • If you choose to drink alcohol, drink responsibly. Seventy-five percent of date and acquaintance rapes occur when one or both persons are under the influence of alcohol.

If You are Raped . . .

Tell Someone
Collect your thoughts, then call 911 or any police department.

Get Medical Care
As soon as possible, seek medical care from a hospital emergency room, A general exam by a rape/sexual assault nurse at the Covenant Hospital Plainview Emergency Room is advised to collect information for documentation of evidence should you decide to prosecute. The exam may also include testing and treatment to help prevent sexually transmitted diseases.

Report the Rape
It is your decision whether to report the rape; however, most rapists are repeat offenders and your report may prevent future attacks from occurring. University personnel will assist you in notifying the police if needed. If you plan to file a report, do not clean up the area or alter it in any way prior to WBU Police Department’s arrival, and follow the steps to preserve evidence.

Preserve Evidence
Even if you have no immediate intention to report the incident to the police, preserving evidence will be important in case you later decide to press criminal charges or pursue university disciplinary action against another person. Physical evidence may also help you obtain an order from a court or the university requiring the other person involved to stay away from you.

  • If you have been sexually assaulted, it is better if you DO NOT shower or bathe, douche, wash hands, use the toilet, brush your teeth, change clothing, or wash clothing or bedding. If you change clothes, carefully place all clothing worn at the time (or bedding) into a paper bag.
  • At a hospital, a sexual assault examination (also known as a forensic examination) can be conducted to gather evidence, whether or not you intend to press criminal charges. This procedure includes a physical exam where a doctor or a trained nurse collects the evidence of the assault. You will need to bring an extra set of clothing. The clothing worn during the assault may be collected as evidence.
  • If you believe you have been drugged, traces of the drug may still be detected for up to 96 hours after ingestion (depending on dosage, and individual metabolism). The chances of getting proof are best when the sample is obtained quickly. In general, evidence collection is best if done immediately following an assault. The more time that passes between the sexual assault and medical collection of evidence, the less likely it is that the evidence will be useful in the prosecution of a criminal case.
  • It may be helpful for you to immediately write down everything you can remember about the incident, including what the assailant(s) looked like (e.g., height, weight, scars, tattoos, hair color, clothes); any unusual odor; any noticeable signs of intoxication; anything the assailant(s) said during the assault; what kinds of sexual activities were demanded and/or carried out; if weapons, threats, or physical force were used; and any special traits noticed (e.g., limp, speech impediments, use of slang, lack of erection, etc.). Writing it down will not only aid you in recalling details should you choose to report, it also can be empowering as it allows you an element of control in a situation where control had previously been taken away.
  • Remember to preserve electronic evidence. Text messages, emails, voicemails, records of recent phone calls, and posts on social media may all provide critical evidence and should not be deleted from your cellphone, computer, or other device. Police or university investigators can help you document and preserve electronic evidence.

 
Seek Counseling
The local Rape Crisis Hotline and the Wayland Baptist University Counseling Center are staffed with well trained and compassionate counselors. They can assist you in dealing with the emotional trauma and pain associated with sexual assault. University officials will also help you change academic and living situations if that is your choice and such options are reasonably available. In addition you can contact the Rape Abuse Incest National Network (RAINN) which offers national anonymous hotline support to survivors and allies at 1.800.656.HOPE (4673). If you would rather chat with someone online, RAINN also operates the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline, a live, secure, anonymous crisis chat support. To access help 24 hours a day, visit: National Sexual Assault Online Hotline