• E-mail is probably the best way to stay in touch. Your kids grew up with e-mail as their primary means of communication, and they’ll feel more comfortable with it. It also saves on long-distance bills! 

  • If the telephone works better for your family, plan to call your child on a regular basis … or they’ll call you on an irregular basis!

  • Offer to visit campus occasionally, but tell your son or daughter well in advance that you would like to come; don’t just appear at their dorm room.

  • Make your visits short when you do visit (unless, of course, they ask you to stay). Offer to take a group of their friends out for dinner, but then allow them to attend whatever social function is occurring later in the evening.

  • The best cure for students’ homesickness is not to come home, but to get involved in college life, and use the phone and e-mail to stay connected. Encourage your student to be active in campus activities

  • Don’t ask if your student is homesick. The power of suggestion can be a dangerous thing! Unless they are reminded of being away they will most likely be too caught up with activities, meeting new people and adjusting to college life to realize what they are missing back home.
  • Expect that your child will need to do multiple loads of laundry when he or she comes home for a visit.
  • Remember that when they come home, they have been on a different sleeping schedule. Be prepared for snack raids to your kitchen at 3 a.m. College students home on vacation often sleep even later in the morning than they did as high school students.